One for the Men...

Over the past few days I've had some interesting conversations with both men and women about romance, making love, and connecting.

Obviously, I know what women tend to think on these matters but what do men think?

I'm curious to know how men define romance. What do you do? When you make love to a woman are you thinking about the deep and profound connection between the two of you, or does some basic instinct kick in and all you can think of is how good you're feeling? If you're in a relationship, do you still work really hard on the emotional connection when making love, or do you take it for granted?

I want to know about the really special times, not the "fuck your brains out" times or the "obligatory" shags (sorry for my crudeness!). I really want the male viewpoint on all this, though obviously the women out there can comment on this too! :)

Empty...

I made my decision. After many hours of soul-searching and discussions with my OH I decided to have a termination. Although I know that this was the right choice for me at this moment in time, I feel strangely empty. And I feel as if I have betrayed the very purpose of my being here on this planet. I know that these feelings are normal, but it doesn't make it any easier.

The worst thing about all this is that I am not allowed to have sex etc for two weeks. Before you dismiss me as a sex-mad monster who is trivialising what I've been through, let me defend myself. At the moment I want nothing more than to lie in my OH's arms, as close as two people can be, while he whispers in my ear that he loves me. I want to feel the imtimacy, the closeness, to know that he understands how I feel and for him to tell me that I'm not a bad person. Yes he's said these things already, but right now I'm feeling very clingy and I need the extra reassurance.