Problems...
Lately I've found that I've been thinking about another woman while I'm masturbating. Not a fantasy, just thinking about how on earth I could start looking for a first experience.
Frankly, this terrifies me! I haven't played the dating game in over 6 years, so to look for a potential partner is quite a daunting prospect. The fact that I'm looking for a female makes me a thousand times more nervous!
I mean, what would I say to break the ice? What if she got the wrong end of the stick and thought I was single and gay (not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not me!)? Heck, how would I bring up the fact that I'm bi-curious? Does one just drop it into conversation these days when eyeing up a new date?
All these thoughts (and many more) have been whirling around my brain, but so far no answers have presented themselves. I want the all-girl experience, but I'm not sure I'm brave enough to go looking for it.
Maybe someone will find me and put all my fears to rest, or maybe I'm destined to remain curious. Who knows what the future will bring? :)
Frankly, this terrifies me! I haven't played the dating game in over 6 years, so to look for a potential partner is quite a daunting prospect. The fact that I'm looking for a female makes me a thousand times more nervous!
I mean, what would I say to break the ice? What if she got the wrong end of the stick and thought I was single and gay (not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not me!)? Heck, how would I bring up the fact that I'm bi-curious? Does one just drop it into conversation these days when eyeing up a new date?
All these thoughts (and many more) have been whirling around my brain, but so far no answers have presented themselves. I want the all-girl experience, but I'm not sure I'm brave enough to go looking for it.
Maybe someone will find me and put all my fears to rest, or maybe I'm destined to remain curious. Who knows what the future will bring? :)
posted by 20SomethingGirl at 8/04/2006 07:17:00 pm
14 Comments:
That's what the internet is for. Plenty of places to post your desires and what you are looking for, pre-determine some strict criteria and see what happens. Talk over email first and then meet somewhere public for lunch, see what happens.
That's how I met Lady L y'know?
AD: I didn't know thats how you met! :)
Thanks for the advice, I'll let you know if anything happens!
Welcome David! Thanks for the compliment!
I feel the same way, and for the same reasons. The trouble is, as a straight woman, I think if I were to advertise for a straight male date, I'd advertise my interests and so on, but in looking for a straight but bi-curious woman, I'd feel the need to emphasise the "I'm straight but would really like to explore with another woman who realises that I'm staright but doesn't mind being used for my curiosity."
Follow your heart! That is the best advice anyone can ever give you!
?: Exactly! Just how do you say that on a "first date"? :)
Plus, the fact that I have an OH complicates things further!
djs: TY!
As a bisexual woman I will tell you that these can be tricky waters to navigate, especially when it's your first time. The key to this is honesty and trust. Your best bet might be to meet a gay women or several gay women on a friend level and just explain that you're bi-curious. Most aren't into head games, (tho some are, so be cautious), and take it from there. Usually they will be very understanding and might be able to help you meet someone.
The other option is to find out if any of your current girlfriends have had bi-sexual experiences and seek their advice. Usually when "it" happens between two women, it's unexpected and beautiful.
Good luck!
xoxo,
nina
You know, I'm in the same boat. And I'm 20-something. And my partner and I have been together for 6 years. And I'm in the UK...
How weird is that?
Luv Mel
xxx
if it feels good it is good. keep cumming
i agree - the internet is a good place to start!
that's how i did it.
Majestic24 & Nina: Some good advice there, TY.
Mel: That is extremely weird! Next you'll be telling me that you're also a brunette!!!
Hi
I was interested to hear of your curiosity - few months ago at a bar with a group of friends, we asked around the group to see who was bi curious - EVERYONE was to a greater or lesser extent.
Does seem to be very common
Anyhow, couple of days later, I had a call from 1 of the girls, who I didnt know all that well, to see if I wanted to get curious with her!
We had a great night - really enjoyable after initial nervousness! - I'll spare you the details.........
Anna xx
Anna: Why does this kind of thing never happen to me?? lol
Pandora: What's holding you back?
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