Confession #1
I have dreamt about the touch of another woman for a long time now. I can't help but wonder what she'll do to me, how it will feel, and will it feel different to a man's touch?
I also wonder what my touch will do to her, how she'll taste when I delve my tongue into her soaking wet cunt, whether she'll gasp with pleasure when I do so.
I know that my OH's favourite fantasy is a threesome with me and another woman, but I don't want the first time I experience another femaile to be witnessed by him. I want to be able to show him what I've learned if we ever have a FMF scenario.
My biggest fear is that if I tell my OH about my fantasy he'll instantly think threesome, about what two women could do to him, about how good he'll feel. What if he totally forgets about the curse of emothion that women have to deal with? I don't want to be a bundle of nerves if we ever find ourselves in this situation, but somehow I don't think that this would ever occur to him, nor the fact that I would have to fancy the female in question as well.
I'd really appreciate some comments about all this, because I'd love to make my (and his) fantasy become a reality but my nerves and doubts are holding me back. Have you been where I am now? How did you overcome your fears? If you're a guy reading this, let me know if my fears are unfounded, or how might be best to tell my OH. In fact, any advice you can give me would be great!
xx
I also wonder what my touch will do to her, how she'll taste when I delve my tongue into her soaking wet cunt, whether she'll gasp with pleasure when I do so.
I know that my OH's favourite fantasy is a threesome with me and another woman, but I don't want the first time I experience another femaile to be witnessed by him. I want to be able to show him what I've learned if we ever have a FMF scenario.
My biggest fear is that if I tell my OH about my fantasy he'll instantly think threesome, about what two women could do to him, about how good he'll feel. What if he totally forgets about the curse of emothion that women have to deal with? I don't want to be a bundle of nerves if we ever find ourselves in this situation, but somehow I don't think that this would ever occur to him, nor the fact that I would have to fancy the female in question as well.
I'd really appreciate some comments about all this, because I'd love to make my (and his) fantasy become a reality but my nerves and doubts are holding me back. Have you been where I am now? How did you overcome your fears? If you're a guy reading this, let me know if my fears are unfounded, or how might be best to tell my OH. In fact, any advice you can give me would be great!
xx
posted by 20SomethingGirl at 2/08/2006 12:13:00 pm
8 Comments:
Re: Your biggest fear
Have you thought about communicating any of this to him? Assuming you have a good relationship and this man is not a total neanderthal, I would suggest that direct, honest communication would be a very good and productive place to start.
It can be difficult as a female to discuss one's sexuality with a male without them hi-jacking it,and running away with their own fantasies, but it's up to you, if you want to own your own desires, to find a way to share them that is robust to whatever preconceptions your partner may have. If your fears are well-founded, then he could benefit from your frankness too.
I also find that the possibility of novel exciting sex can be a great motivator for a man to actually listen to what *you* have to say and open his mind to the existence of a female point of view.
I myself have been in a threesome relationship for several years (MFF), and the best advice I would suggest is communication. Express yourself. It will enable you to build a stronger more fulfilling relationship with your partner, whatever new experiences that may or may not involve.
Your fears are well founded but you need to communicate... if this is the road you want to travel talk or you will be disappointed (I've been there and it took me years to get my partner 'back'...)
Interesting little blog, you have here! Re: OH... Once you have found a willing partner, you may want to first make him the centre of attention. I'm sure two creative ladies, would be able to take any guy for a nice ride. Once he's had enough candy, you may ask him to gently participate as you and your new friend cuddle and get each other off! He may just love the idea. You clould probably send him off to get some champagne too.
Hope you get your wish!
my wifes first was with a swinger and it was her first too. me and the other husband was there. that was 8 years or so ago. we still havent done a fmf threesome because its just hard to find someone we both are atracted to who dosent have a man and at a time we feel like doing it. your man needs to understand that for him to have a threesome you need a learning experence. for myself if this were the case I would say hell go ahead. in the long run I will benifit.as a couple thats how it should be. tell him and tell him what you want first if he dosent understand then maybe you should find another. the yearning you have will never go away till you try it. you may not like it but then again you may.
go fo it and see if you like then if you do invite him
Hello. You seem to be far more open-minded than I ever was when it comes to girl-on-girl action. My husband liked to joke about my bi-sexual tendencies (I didn't have any, but, boy did he want me to have them!). He got this in his head because I have a cute lesbian friend who has always been attracted to me. Years and years ago she and I kissed ... then one drunken night my husband benefitted from her crush on me. The three of us ended up in bed.
I didn't embrace 'bisexuality. Even now -- after many girl on girl experiences that I have really (really!) enjoyed -- I would NEVER say I'm bisexual.
I think you are smart ... it is nice to be with a woman without your male partner. It helps you keep your mind free of what you may be thinking if your partner is present. Sometimes it is good to be selfish!
Anyway, this is much longer a comment than I intended. Your posting must have hit home. Best of luck to you. Feel free to visit my site ... I touch on some of this stuff ...
www.sexinthesmoke.com
or email me at
ellie at hush dot ai
Cheers,
e
Some great advice here, so thanks to you all.
Ellie, great site!
Jay, thanks for the male viewpoint!
Hi,
that's a strong doubt 4 sure, but if you mail me I can share my personal experience. There's not only an issue about "feeling blocked" but even one about "what to do"...
Bye
Paolo74 at gmail dot com
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